My name is Olusegun, a 40-year-old man working in Lagos. I have been married for eight years with two children but I am no more enjoying my marriage because of my wife’s sudden change and attitude towards sex » .
My wife, Yinka , used to be hot, sexy and always ready for sex in the early years of our marriage but since she became a born again Christian, sex has become almost none extent as she comes up with one stupid excuse or the other to deny me sex.
The issue started two years ago when her friend invited her to a church programme where she gave her life to Christ and since then, she has been living by the tenets of the church, forgetting she is a married woman and should not deny her lawfully wedded husband her body.
Since then, I can count how many times we have had sex as she is always on one fast or the other. Most times, she would pray all through the night and if I attempt to touch her at such times, it would result into ‘binding and casting the filthy demons’ that have possessed me.
The most annoying part of it was when she told me her pastor told them that sex is a draw back in the service of God. I have tried to let her know that the kind of sex meant is that between unmarried people but Yinka would never listen to me.
Even when she agrees to have sex, she would want us to go into prayers before we do it. I am so frustrated that I am beginning to think if it would not be better to get sex outside since the one I have at home is frustrating me.
I love my wife but I am being pushed to the wall.
Dear readers, we ask: is it right for a married woman to deny her husband sex on religious grounds?